Hi my name is Brittni and I am an introvert!! Ugg I am glad I got that off my chest!! But seriously it is a major struggle and something that I consciously have to work on every day !! If someone was to ask me what my biggest struggle is in business and in life in general , putting myself out there would have to be on the top of the list for sure. When I say putting myself out there I mean, not only socially but also in marketing or advertising for my business. I am not one to initiate a conversation and will typically avoid it if I can. Its not that I don’t love people or interacting with them I think its the initial start up of a conversation or me trying to avoid awkwardness. To be honest I really don’t know what it is exactly but it does get in my way.
I host workshops and invite lots of people out to my farm and love watching other people enjoy it . I have met a great deal of people in my community through business that I would never have met and am grateful for those connections. I sit on a board for our city just to push myself and network and I’m the most awkward individual in the room!
I love learning from others. My whole life I have always been the quiet one in the room observing things and its how I learn. This has and can be misconstrued as me just be a B**** but its how I process. I try my hardest to not be an overreactive person, who can process things before I speak . Now don’t get me wrong I am not perfect about this and if you are close to me and I feel comfortable with you wont be able to get me to stop talking once I stop HAHA. I have a way of watching other people in life and evaluating by watching others and getting to know other people by doing so . I believe that people are put in our life to teach you . To teach you either who you want to be or not want to be . I invite everyone from all walks of life in to my life because conversations with the most unlikely person can be invaluable. This is tricky to navigate and as an empath can get me in to trouble so finding balance in that can be tricky. I will say though that I feel like I have always been a round peg in a square hole so to speak. One of my favorite quotes that I have a large wall hanging of in my home is…
“Here’s to the crazy ones. The misfits. The rebels. The troublemakers. The round pegs in the square holes. The ones who see things differently. They’re not fond of rules. And they have no respect for the status quo. You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify or vilify them. About the only thing you can’t do is ignore them. Because they change things. They push the human race forward. And while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius. Because the people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world, are the ones who do.”
This quote speaks to my soul. I am attracted to others who have a similar outlook in life as well and its typically the people in life who most wont even speak to . I feel more comfortable walking up to a homeless person down on their luck and having a conversation because I know that my efforts to engage will be recognized and appreciated. This may come deep from within from an insecurity I may have but whatever it is I cant help but be this way. I am a woman of God who strives to be more like our maker and feel connected to Jesus in this way. I know that biblically he was this way and strive every day to be more like him so I make no excuses, for this is how he made me .
Now with all that being said in my business, life its hard for me to connect or carry that mind set in to business. In trying to push myself and grow and get better I have chosen to host travelers from all over the world in our air BNB. I get pure joy from caring for others hence the nick name Mama Bee but if I am being honest I make my husband go out and greet them when they arrive!! I am embarrassed to even admit that but its true! Its like I have All these ideas in business of an extrovert and I know what I need to do to put them in to action and then when they actually happen I freeze. Its like my soul and brain are in conflict with each other. I will say though that having a very out going extroverted husband has helped me a lot. I think that with out him I wouldn’t even talk to anyone. HAHA
My husband is the kind of guy when he is in line at the grocery store he sparks up a conversation with some one and comes home with their phone number and tells me about his new friend he just met. So rewind a little but if you caught that he is in line at the grocery. Yes my husband does all the grocery shopping. He enjoys it and I dread it so its a task that he has taken on for the family and I am so thankful for it.
In marriage and partnerships that’s what its all about. Picking up where your partner is weak . So I do all the yard work, mowing, tractor work and stuff around the farm and he does the grocery shopping and cooking and it works for us. I have noticed that a lot of woman in the Flower farmer industry that I have had the pleasure of getting to know on IG are introverts as well and I think its super interesting.
So on the business side of being an Introvert I also dread being salesy . I cant stand the thought of trying to sell myself to someone or my services and it makes my skin crawl just thinking about it. I cant stand pushy sales people and fear in business of becoming one. I have like this false idea in my head that me talking about what I do will annoy people and feel like I am trying to sell them something.
I am so proud of what I do and have so much passion for it but when I think about talking to other people about my business its like I picture a used car sales man following you around a car lot !! I know I know that’s an extreme example because that’s not even close to it but its so awkward for me.
I will be honest being an introvert in business and in life in general is hard. I have to push myself to do the hard things because I know it’s what needs to be done . Not only for myself personally but for my business. I sign up for those hard networking meetings, sit on the board for my city, host workshops and put myself out there even though it’s terrifying because I know it’s what I need to do ! So if you can take away anything from this please hear me when I say ” Do the Hard Things” !! I promise it will pay off!! Push yourself to do the things that seem the hardest in life!!
Do the hard things!!